Find your way back to trust, intimacy, & each other.
COUPLES THERAPY IN SAN FRANCISCO, ONLINE ACROSS CAlifornia
You’re tired of the same arguments and the distance that inevitably follows.
You’ve both been trying to make things work, but it feels like the harder you try, the more disconnected you become. Conversations that used to flow easily now end in awkward silence or explosive frustration. You can still remember what it felt like to laugh and have fun together, but with the walls that now exist between you, you worry you’ll never have that again.
MAYBE YOU & YOUR PARTNER HAVE BEEN…
Avoiding important conversations because you already know how they’ll end, and then feeling resentful when your needs aren’t met.
Feeling like you’re competing rather than collaborating when it comes to parenting, finances, or decision-making.
Trying to rebuild trust after a lie or betrayal that altered how you see your partner.
Living more like roommates or co-parents than lovers who enjoy each other’s company.
Feeling alone, even when you’re sitting right next to each other.
You miss the version of your relationship where you felt like a team instead of two people just coexisting.
HOW I CAN HELP
We won’t just talk about connecting in ways that bring you closer, we’ll practice them together.
When we work together, I’m here to hear and understand both of you—not to take sides. Often, this looks like giving you both space to speak, but pausing you when common arguments get stirred up so we can slow down, look beneath the surface, and understand what’s really happening between you.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we’ll get curious about the unmet needs that drive your reactions—what each of you is actually reaching for, and what happens when you can’t seem to find it. From there, we’ll practice responding to each other with empathy instead of defense, and honesty instead of avoidance.
We’ll also use Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to learn new skills to help you repair after conflict, rebuild trust, and hold each other accountable with care. We’ll work on creating a balanced foundation for your relationship where both of you feel heard, valued, and respected. If we run into difficult topics or emotions (which is common in this work), I’ll guide you through them with compassion so you can get to the other side feeling closer and more connected than ever.
What we’ll work on
Specialized therapy for couples can help you & your partner…
Express your needs, fears, and boundaries with honesty and empathy instead of blame or defensiveness.
Understand the emotional patterns that fuel conflict and learn how to stop the cycle.
Repair after arguments or breaches of trust so resentment doesn’t keep building.
Rebuild emotional and physical intimacy in ways that feel safe and genuine.
Feel secure about your compatibility and capacity to support each other through shared values and accountability.
Create a relationship that feels equal and capable of handling future challenges.
Your relationship deserves a chance to grow stronger.
it’s time to feel like a team again.
frequently asked questions
Common questions about Couples Therapy
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That’s really common, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is hopeless. Sometimes one person starts therapy first, and the other joins once they see it’s a space for understanding, not blame. I can help you talk about therapy in a way that feels less intimidating. And when both partners are ready, we’ll work together to rebuild connection at a pace that feels right for you both.
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That happens, and it’s actually useful information. My job is to slow those moments down and help you both see what’s really happening underneath the argument. You’ll learn to recognize triggers and shift from reacting to understanding. Therapy gives you a safe place to practice the skills that make conflict more productive and less painful.
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Yes. Healing from betrayal is painful, but it’s possible with honesty, accountability, and time. We’ll focus on rebuilding safety and trust while helping both partners express their pain and needs openly. Together, we’ll work toward forgiveness, repair, and a relationship that feels stronger on the other side.
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Absolutely. Couples therapy is for any committed relationship—dating, engaged, married, or long-term partners. The work is the same: learning how to communicate, resolve conflict, and stay emotionally connected. I’ll tailor our sessions to your specific stage and goals.
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It depends on what you’re working through. Some couples focus on a specific issue for a few months, while others stay longer to strengthen communication and trust. We’ll talk about your goals up front and check in as we go to make sure you’re getting what you need. The goal is lasting change, not endless sessions.